Therapy for ADHD, Trauma & the Stories That Hold You Back

I'm Will Koehler, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in San Francisco. I've worked with individuals, couples, teens, and families in the Bay Area for over 15 years — and I tend to be more hands-on than most therapists.

My practice centers on three deeply connected areas: ADHD, childhood abandonment trauma, and Complex PTSD (C-PTSD). These aren't just diagnoses — they're patterns that quietly shape how you see yourself, how you connect with others, and whether you feel like you belong in your own life.

I offer in-person sessions at my San Francisco office (Silver Terrace neighborhood) and telehealth sessions for clients throughout California.

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Who do I work best with?

You might be a good fit if:

• You have an ADHD diagnosis (or suspect you do) and you're realizing it has affected your self-esteem and relationships more than your to-do list.

 • You carry childhood wounds — maybe you were never physically abandoned, but something was missing. You've struggled to feel like you truly belong, even in relationships that look fine from the outside.

• Your trauma is more psychological than event-based. It's a pattern, not a single incident.

• You want a therapist who is engaged and interactive not someone who sits quietly and nods.

• You're struggling to understand yourself, your emotions, or why your relationships keep hitting the same walls.

About My Approach

Sessions are 50 minutes. We may explore formative experiences and unconscious beliefs, identify maladaptive thought patterns, and build concrete strategies for change — but this isn't cookie-cutter therapy.

Central to how I work is a belief that thriving requires meaningful connection: to people, to work, to purpose. When those connections are missing or broken, the result often looks like anxiety, low mood, distractibility, relational conflict, or a persistent sense that something is off. That's usually where we start.

What we'll work on together:

Depending on what brings you in, sessions may help you:

• Understand how ADHD, trauma, or C-PTSD have shaped your emotional regulation, focus, and relationships

• Resolve patterns rooted in childhood abandonment

• Build more depth and stability in your close relationships

• Manage intense or overwhelming feelings more effectively

• Increase your capacity for focus, presence, and follow-through

Cost & Insurance

Individual sessions: $250 / 50 minutes

Couples or family sessions: $300 / 50 minutes

Available in-person at:

1994A Carroll Ave, San Francisco, CA 94124

Available via telehealth throughout California.

Insurance: A limited number of insurance slots are available

through Headway. Visit headway.co/providers/will-koehler

to check your benefits.

Sliding scale: A small number of sliding scale spots are

available based on demonstrated financial need.

Common Questions

  • A: Individual sessions are $250 for 50 minutes. Couples and family sessions are $300. A small number of sliding scale spots are available for those with demonstrated financial need.

  • A: Insurance billing is available through Headway. Visit headway.co/providers/will-koehler to create a profile and check your specific benefits.

  • A: Yes — I offer both in-person sessions at my San Francisco office and telehealth video sessions for clients anywhere in California. Both formats are 50 minutes.

  • A: Abandonment trauma doesn't mean you were physically left somewhere. It often refers to a more subtle experience: growing up feeling emotionally unseen, struggling to feel close to others, or having difficulty trusting that people will stay.

    It usually originates in early relationships where emotional presence was inconsistent or unavailable.

  • A: C-PTSD (Complex PTSD) typically develops from repeated or prolonged experiences — often in childhood — rather than a single traumatic event. It tends to affect self-worth, emotional regulation, identity, and the ability to form trusting relationships.

  • A: My ADHD work focuses less on productivity systems and more on the psychological impact of ADHD — specifically how it affects self-esteem, relationships, and emotional life. Many adults with ADHD carry years of shame from feeling "broken" or "too much." That's usually the more important place to work.

  • A: My office is at 1994A Carroll Ave in San Francisco's Silver Terrace neighborhood (ZIP 94124). My office is also my woodworking shop. Telehealth is also available throughout California.

  • A: Request an appointment through my online calendar at will-koehler.clientsecure.me. Free 20-minute consultations are available so we can see if working together feels like the right fit.

Request Appointment

Schedule an appointment through my online calendar. Free 20 minute consultations are available.